When you’re talking to yourself, which one is “who you are”–the one talking or the one listening? In your mental conversations, you get to take both sides but only one of them is who you are. You get to listen to what you’re telling yourself and you get to answer yourself however you choose. What you aren’t able to do so easily is to stop talking to yourself. No matter what your inner voice is saying, you are the one who hears the voice, you are the one who notices someone is talking, and you are the one who reacts to what you hear.
From the time we are very young, we mold our personalities from these mental conversations and develop different ways of being to get what we want. But, at the end of the day, in those quiet moments before we fall asleep at night, when we’re talking (or listening) to ourselves, the most important thing that adds to our lives is whether or not we feel loved for being who we are. And to take it one step further, do we feel lovable?